Happy Father's Day! To each person in this world, Father's Day opens emotions of every kind. Some are genuinely happy, some are just plain sad and the others, well, they are stuck in a limbo. With emotions running deep about the things, people, days or words we tag as significant, life can happen right infront of your face and you are blinded to it.
Fortnately for me, growing up was classified as 'normal', in my first 14 years of life. I had a mom, dad and one brother. We lived in a house and had a car, both of my parents had decent jobs. I loved my parents so much that I had no problem 'sharing' them with my friends that didn't have one or the other. I felt blessed at that fact that I had two parents and they were happily married. My friends that had two parents, they either didn't get along or slept in seperate rooms. I was genuinely happy.
From my friends' point of view, it wasn't all peaches and cream. Many of nights I would spend listening to them, mostly while at their house, cry on day's like Father's Day about how much they just wanted a dad soo bad. At the time, I couldn't imagine but none the less was whole heartedly into feeling compassion for them. When I had my children, it was then that I understood the deep hurt from the lack of a father figure.
For those that are in a limbo, the question is and remains, "Father or Dad?". Father is defined as, A man in relation to his natural child or children. Dad is defined as, A man in relation to a child wether it is his natural or not. He is present and holds a hand in their upbringing. He not only provides financial support but is, moreso, there for a should to cry on, pat them on the back and give them a high five. He laughs with them, loves them and teaches them through discipline and tough love.
So why must some be without? I myself, even growing up with a dad, now have asked myself this question since my children's fathers, that are alive, aren't activily in their lives. I had to do my research, something to settle my soul and my worries and what I found gave me the utmost clarity. I began reading, The Purpose Driven Life by Rick Warren. I have to admit that I haven't finished reading it due to the fact that only by Chapter 2, I was speachless. Chapter 2, You are NOT an Accident, broke it down, every last question I had ever asked myself as to why my children were fatherless. It explains that GOD knows the exact DNA of the exact 2 people it will take to create the next child for HIS purpose. So he places those two people where they need to be to meet and create the child. That particular child is born into the exact state, city, town and family where he wants that child to serve his purpose. I urge you to read it. It provided much clarity for me.
Then there was a church sermon I watched on T.V. that explain why we pray for their fathers to be in there life and they still aren't here. The pastor prayed for 27 years to meet his father. When he finally did, he was a drug dealer in N.Y. Bronx along with all of his siblings. So, if GOD answered his prayer as soon as he started praying, he wouldn't have been our pastor and most likely selling drugs with the rest of them. This made me realize that GOD has it under control and to focus and be thankful that GOD made me strong enough to be the Mother and the Dad.
I believe that everthing happens for a reason and have learned to be greatful for what I do have, instead of worrying about what I don't have. Otherwise, the blessings put in front of you will be missed. GOD blesses us daily with moments of breath, so we need to be thankful for the moments that take our breath away! Take the time to thank each male that has done the slightest thing for you and your children, as they are Angels sent from Heaven.
Angela
Fortnately for me, growing up was classified as 'normal', in my first 14 years of life. I had a mom, dad and one brother. We lived in a house and had a car, both of my parents had decent jobs. I loved my parents so much that I had no problem 'sharing' them with my friends that didn't have one or the other. I felt blessed at that fact that I had two parents and they were happily married. My friends that had two parents, they either didn't get along or slept in seperate rooms. I was genuinely happy.
From my friends' point of view, it wasn't all peaches and cream. Many of nights I would spend listening to them, mostly while at their house, cry on day's like Father's Day about how much they just wanted a dad soo bad. At the time, I couldn't imagine but none the less was whole heartedly into feeling compassion for them. When I had my children, it was then that I understood the deep hurt from the lack of a father figure.
For those that are in a limbo, the question is and remains, "Father or Dad?". Father is defined as, A man in relation to his natural child or children. Dad is defined as, A man in relation to a child wether it is his natural or not. He is present and holds a hand in their upbringing. He not only provides financial support but is, moreso, there for a should to cry on, pat them on the back and give them a high five. He laughs with them, loves them and teaches them through discipline and tough love.
So why must some be without? I myself, even growing up with a dad, now have asked myself this question since my children's fathers, that are alive, aren't activily in their lives. I had to do my research, something to settle my soul and my worries and what I found gave me the utmost clarity. I began reading, The Purpose Driven Life by Rick Warren. I have to admit that I haven't finished reading it due to the fact that only by Chapter 2, I was speachless. Chapter 2, You are NOT an Accident, broke it down, every last question I had ever asked myself as to why my children were fatherless. It explains that GOD knows the exact DNA of the exact 2 people it will take to create the next child for HIS purpose. So he places those two people where they need to be to meet and create the child. That particular child is born into the exact state, city, town and family where he wants that child to serve his purpose. I urge you to read it. It provided much clarity for me.
Then there was a church sermon I watched on T.V. that explain why we pray for their fathers to be in there life and they still aren't here. The pastor prayed for 27 years to meet his father. When he finally did, he was a drug dealer in N.Y. Bronx along with all of his siblings. So, if GOD answered his prayer as soon as he started praying, he wouldn't have been our pastor and most likely selling drugs with the rest of them. This made me realize that GOD has it under control and to focus and be thankful that GOD made me strong enough to be the Mother and the Dad.
I believe that everthing happens for a reason and have learned to be greatful for what I do have, instead of worrying about what I don't have. Otherwise, the blessings put in front of you will be missed. GOD blesses us daily with moments of breath, so we need to be thankful for the moments that take our breath away! Take the time to thank each male that has done the slightest thing for you and your children, as they are Angels sent from Heaven.
Angela
RSS Feed